The Society

What or who is the society?, well according to the dictionary, society is a community, people living together in a group or nation, but who or what is the society to you?

Some may say the society consists of influencial people, influencial in a sense that their words and opinions carry a lot of weight. Some even believe that the society could be the reason some men don’t want to be seen crying, it could be the reason some people are afraid of exploring their sexuality, it could be the reason some people feel boxed, like they are expected to to behave, dress, talk, and carry themselves in a certain way.

We often hear people talk about Societal Expectations and how the society kind of dictates how some people should live their lives. You and me are both part of the society, what role do you play in your society? Are you the person that’s always discouraging people? Are you the person that wants people to decide whether they’re a man or a woman, to make it easy and comfortable for you to address them? Are you the type of person that expects people to be married with kids at a certain age just because you achieved those things at that particular age? Are you the reason some people don’t feel beautiful because they don’t fall under your description and definition of what Beauty looks like? Or are you the reason someone wakes up with a smile on their face? Are you a person with an open-mind? Someone that lets people be who they want to be, someone who spreads love and kindness, someone who lives their life unapologetically and letting other people do just that?.

Society: be yourself.

Society: not like that.

Why is it that we sometimes let people’s opinions have so much power in our lives? Why do we fail to trust ourselves more than we trust other people’s opinions? What’s funny is that sometimes our lives are controlled by people we don’t even know and that don’t even know us. Let’s take social media for instance, when you post a picture of yourself looking cute and nice, one single comment from a stranger saying that your eyes are too small, or your ears are shaped funny and your legs are too small for your body, quickly makes you remove it and you start doubting yourself, forgetting that you posted that picture knowing very well how your eyes, ears and legs look like and that you’re beautiful regardless, it just took one person to point out things you already know about yourself, for you to have second thoughts.

You are beautiful, you are strong, you are capable, you are worthy, and most of all, you are enough. Stop giving people so much power over your life, they’re always going to talk, they’re always going to try and find faults in everything you do, and they will always have opinions about your life, and that is all they should be, opinions. Stop projecting your fears and insecurities unto other people and stop allowing people to project their fears and insecurities unto you.

“You are the author of your own life, don’t let anybody else hold the pen”